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Your Feelings

Different types of feelings


Growing up is hard and dealing with so many different types of feelings doesn't make it any easier.  You may feel happy one day, sad the next...then angry...then playful...then...well, you get the point.  There aren't enough days in the week to contain your feelings but it's all a part of growing up and perfectly normal.  I guarantee you that you're not the only kid going through the 'emotional rollercoaster' and don't worry, it continues when you become an adult, but by dealing with them now, you'll become more and more knowledgeable on how to cope with them into your adulthood.
Let's cover a few of them and give you a head start on handling them.




Anger

Do you remember why you felt so angry?
  • Maybe you didn't get something that you wanted? 
  • Maybe your team lost the game?
  • Maybe you thought something was unfair?
  • Maybe you were scared?
  • Maybe someone hurt you?
  • Maybe your feelings were hurt.


Bad things about anger

  • Someone's feelings could be hurt.
  • Someone's property could be hurt.
  • Something could happen that would never be made better.
  • Someone can feel really sorry afterwards - when it's too late.


What does anger look like?

  • Angry people can look red in the face or go suddenly very pale. 
  • Their eyes look mad and their lips go thin and tight looking.
  • Often angry people will move fast and clumsily.
  • Angry people sometimes clench their fists and seem as if they want to hit out at something or someone.
  • They may shout, swear, or speak in a loud, nasty voice.
  • They may bang into things or people.
  • They may cry or run away.
  • Their eyes may look watery and their veins may stand out.
  • Their nostrils may get wider.
  • They may look pale around the mouth and nose.


Did you know there are good things about anger?

Believe it or not, some good things come from being angry too.  Anger releases chemicals in your brain, which then cause the changes in your body that you can feel. These changes give you extra strength and alertness so that you are ready to protect yourself from danger, stand up for your rights or run away to keep yourself safe, a sort of mini ''super hero'' change.
Many good changes in the world have been made because people got angry about something and used that anger to work together to change things in a positive way. Maybe you could ask the adults you know to tell you how they have used anger to make life better for others.

Put away the put-downs

Have you noticed how some people just love to put other people down? Often they are people who make themselves feel better by making others feel worse.

Ignore put-downs from other people!  Don't use put-downs yourself!  Just feel happy when you manage to do something or get better at something that you have been practicing.
What is happiness?
 
The dictionary says that happiness is the state of being happy!  It also says that good fortune, feeling content, pleasure or gladness can make a person feel happy.  One thing is for sure and that is that money cannot make a person happy, nor can having all the things that anyone could want.
Happiness is more about feelings and interactions with other people than having things.



Building happiness into your life

*Some people seem to be born happy. Nothing seems to get them down, they can always see the best of every situation and they seem to smile their way through life.
*Some people seem to be really lucky, always in the right place at the right time but they still don't seem to be happy.
*Some people seem to have everything going for them but still do not seem to be happy.



No matter what kind of person you are, you can do some things to build happiness into your life.


Family Ways

* Spend time with your family. Be kind, friendly and helpful to each other.
* Do things together like eating meals together, helping with chores around the house and yard, and supporting each other in homework, sports interests and hobbies.
* Try to get time for yourself with just mom or just dad so that you can have fun together, or learn how to do something like cooking or gardening, fishing or knitting.
* Enjoy being in a family, doing the sort of things your family likes to do - like family traditions such as getting together for birthdays and festivals - building up good family memories for the future.


Music

* Music can be a great way to make you feel happy. You can listen to it, or even take up playing an instrument.
* Many schools will offer a musical instrument program and often you may not even have to buy an instrument. You may be able to use one from school or hire one from the music branch of your local education authority. Some local bands may have instruments to lend to people keen to learn.
* You may join a choir or just enjoy singing by yourself.
* There are lots of music sites on the Internet so you can try out all kinds of music to find out what you like and what makes you feel happy.

 

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.



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